Which famous comedian and talk show host once sold vacuum cleaners door-to-door before making it big in show business?

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In today’s Career Ladder:

• Today’s Ladder: Authentic influence always wins.

• Framework: Influence that feels effortless.

• Takeaway: You don’t need to push.

• Resources: I filtered out the fluff. Here’s the gold.

• ICYMI: Missed these? Here’s a quick recap…

• Career Ladder Intel: Must-know news and trends in today’s job market.

Today’s Ladder:

Authentic Influence Always Wins

One question can shift the tone.

One pause can calm a tense room.

One phrase, “What are your thoughts?”... 

Can turn resistance into partnership.

Influence lives in these small signals.

Not in domination. Not in tricks.

But in the subtle strength of someone who knows who they are… and leads with that.

I learned this important career lesson when one of my mentors said,

“You can’t influence others if you don’t first connect with them.”

That one sentence flipped my entire approach to leadership.

Framework:

Influence That Feels Effortless

Here’s what I started doing differently to influence with integrity:

1. Lead with empathy.
   Before pushing my point, I asked questions to understand theirs. People listen more when they feel heard.
   

2. Speak the language of impact.
   I stopped using opinions and started using outcomes: “Here’s how this improves results,” not “I think this is better.”
   

3. Anchor ideas to shared goals.
   Instead of “my idea,” I said, “our opportunity.” That single word changed how others responded.

Once I shifted from trying to convince people to trying to connect with them, influence stopped feeling manipulative.

I wasn’t selling my ideas.
I was aligning them.

And when people feel part of your idea, they help make it happen.

The key is to approach it the way I outline it in this guide.

Takeaway

You Don’t Need to Push

One night, my two daughters were fighting over a toy.

I stepped in, ready to fix it… again.

• I explained fairness. 

• I offered alternatives. 

• I even tried distraction.

Nothing worked.

Then my wife quietly said, “You’re solving the wrong problem.”

She was right.

Our kids didn’t need another solution. They needed to feel heard.

So I stopped talking and started listening.
Within minutes, the tension faded.

• No lecture. 

• No power struggle. 

• Just understanding.

It hit me later how often we do the same thing at work.

We push harder to be heard instead of slowing down to connect.

True influence doesn’t come from control.

It comes from clarity, empathy, and the ability to make people feel seen.

That’s the foundation of “How to Speak and Influence at Work.” Check it here.

Resources:

• Five Stars: The Communication Secrets to Get from Good to Great - this book provides practical strategies for elevating communication skills to build rapport, convey ideas effectively, and influence others.

• Communicate with Confidence: The Blueprint for Mastering Every Conversation - this podcast video from Mel Robbins featuring Jefferson Fisher provides actionable strategies for boosting workplace communication skills and influence.

• How to Speak and Influence at Work - this guide teaches you, “Instant Influence”, and how to become the most respected voice in the room… without being the loudest.

ICYMI: Links to popular issues

❤️ Unlock Your True Potential: How to Find Career Satisfaction by Embracing Your Identity

🙋🏻‍♂️ Redefining Leadership: It's Time to Embrace Your Power

😎 Master the Art of Delegation: How to unlock your team's potential.

Career Ladder Intel:

• Construction experienced a loss of 115,000 openings and federal government jobs dropped by 61,000 - Read more

• There is ongoing news coverage of sizable job cuts from major employers like Amazon and UPS, and nearly 950,000 job cuts have been announced through September of this year, the highest since 2020 - Read more

• 60% of workers are unhappy with key aspects of their job - Read more

DID YOU KNOW?

Before Ellen DeGeneres became famous as a comedian and talk show host, she really did have a bunch of regular jobs. One of them was selling vacuum cleaners door-to-door. She’s mentioned it in several interviews and stand-up routines as part of her early, pre-comedy life.

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